By L. M. O’Neal
Life in itself offers challenges often not anticipated. If you are a parent or grand parent, questions quickly become the style of conversation when involved with that little bundle of joy that is now a walking, talking inquery.
That is not abad thing because if you feed them they will grow and if they grow, they will learn and that means they will learn to talk and question, even you. As interesting as that can be, they quickly learn to use one of the most dangerous questions in life. It’s a simple and small question that carries the ability to grind down the mightiest of men and women. What is the question with the power to crush whole societies?
Surprised? No one should be. The question “why” has peeled the mighty down to a human level and the tiny can be lifted up to great heights and joy. But, why is the question “WHY” so magnificent?
Just for a moment imagine you’ve executed some less than honorable deed and it appeared you got away with it. Then, wiser minds began investigating the entire incident and through methods not to be mentioned, they make their way to you. The party now under scrutiny is you but, you are ready with a bullet proof alibi. If that should fail, your thought processes has arranged an impressive line of bull as your defense and the questions began.
First in a semi-polite manner you are asked if you are aware of the offense to which they are inquiring. You reply, “Yes I am.”
That seems a safe enough answer. Anyone in the know, knows what’s been going on. Then the interigation starts. Question after question, after question comes at you and you answer as truthfully as you think safe. But, the person to which you are speaking is a step or two ahead of you and eventuallyevidence and reason combine to crack your once bullet proof alibi or line of defense.
Suddenly you realize you’ve made a mistake in one of your answers and so does your interigator.
Now, without warning you are asked a “why” question like, “Why did you tell me you went to …? Now your lightning fast mind kicks out an answer and you think you are safe, even though your answer was a lie.
The discussion continues and suddenly another question. “Why did you tell me you went to …, when I know for a fact you did not. So Why did you say that? There’s that question, word, “WHY”.
THAT IS TWICE. If the conversation, interigation continues to the point of 4 more whys’, and you attempt to answer, you will be peeled like an onion simply because the question “Why” will strip away your defensive lies.
That is the reason the question “WHY” is so dangerous. If it is used with skill and care, this one question will drill into to the core of the issue and extract the honest truth. For a liar, that is extremely painful and dangerous.
However, I will warn anyone planning to use the “WHY DRILL” with the intent of reaching the truth, be prepared to learn much more than you ever wanted to know. Once the drill penetrates into the truth, you may be forced to facetruths within yourself, if you are the one using the drill.
Use this tactic with extreme care and caution. Getting to the truth of a matter can be extremely liberating or it can leave life long scars. theouthousereport.com